The 7 things your crossed over loved ones most want you to know.

I'm always learning in my readings and my mediumship sessions can often teach me the most. Our connection really does remain to our crossed over loved ones, family members, friends and even pets - everyone we have shared a bond with. Sometimes even if we didn't know or really remember them. All the readings I do are different  but there are some main points, themes and information that gets passed through and relates to us all, to helps us know and understand their  transition to spirit.

1) Bonds of love.

The bonds of love we have to our loved ones, family and friends remain and don't go away. Even if we didn't always see eye to eye or didn't get along while they were alive. Our passed over family members will come often forward with regrets and take responsibility for what they couldn't see or acknowledge while they were living. They can regret not telling you they loved you more, as from their new insight and perspective they can see how important it is to express love, for connection, confidence, self worth and acceptance. They want you know how much they continue to love you, how much you mean to them and how proud they are of you.

2) They keep their personalities.

If your loved ones, family members or friends were a naughty, cheeky wotsit while they were alive, you can bet they are exactly the same in the spirit world and you may experience a 'spirit prank'. This is were they can change the channels on your television or radio (especially when there is a song on that will remind you of them) telephone you, shut doors ect, but, if they feel that they are worring or frightening you they will back away and stop. I've had grandmothers, aunties or mums come through in readings and if they were house proud and told it like it is, they tell me my windows or curtains need cleaning! Also, what can happen if the person is more quite, humble or shy they may let another family member speak more during your reading. This is how they show their personalities and who they were, who they still are.

3) They speak of their passing and visit their funerals.

For a medium giving evidence within a reading, it is important to bring through details of your loved ones passing, health issues, whether was was a slow or quicker transition. But in my experience, not all spirits like to talk of their passing, especially if it was traumatic and may upset you to re-live, to remember. Some won't want to go into many details, but will speak about the overall picture of what happened. What comes through as really important is that our soul chooses how it passes. On a higher level and perspective they choose the circumstances and conditions, and really don't want their loved ones to feel any guilt or responsibility. This can come up if they feel they 'missed' being with their loved one at the time of passing but this is nearly always the soul who's transitioning's choice. I've been told by spirits who have waited till their loved ones was out of the room before they passed. As they would rather your last memory was of them alive. They almost always visit their funerals, thanking the people who made the arrangements, did a reading, spoke of their lives. It really does help your loved one transition by the send off you give them. In a way it releases their spirit from their earthy life.  They see you upset and wish they could physically  comfort you but also wish you to feel the love you share. They can very often make coincidences and signs show up and happen around their funerals.

4) Memories of special times, occasions, one to one times.

Memories are still really important to our passed over loved ones, friends and animals. They remember the trips to the sea side, holidays, the times you played games together, Christmases, anniversarys, the fun times you spent together. The way they felt when they shared time with you, laughing at silly jokes, or what they taught you - maybe to ride your first bike or that majorette tournament or school play where, in their eyes you stole the show. Some memories you may have forgotten but they still mean the world to them and they can very much connect to you through your shared memories.

5) They learn  lessons and meaning from their lives in their 'life review'.

It can take a soul who has transitioned time to adapt in the spirit world, some can do it quicker than others, but what can slow the process down is if they had no belief in life after death. They often have to have time to get used to it and are really helped to do so by other family members and their spirit team. Also, if a soul passed through taking there own life they can feel a lot of guilt, responsibility and sadness, but there is never any judgement and they are helped and counselled through it. All souls are  shown their life review, (which I see they watch on what is like a big tv screen) at some point while there in the first stages of their transition, they process parts of their life, the options they took, what they learned and often at the end of this,  take on their next assignments to help other spirit realms, members and their earth family.

6) They hear your thoughts and visit you in your dreams.

You may talk to your crossed over loved in you mind and want them to answer any questions you have, which they will try their best to do either through your dreams, seeing signs or by visiting a medium. When you dream of them, they really are visiting you. This is known as a visitation dream. You may not be able to hear what they say or how exactly their trying to connect, but try to go with how you feel, especially after the dream. Try to open up your awareness to the spirit world through meditation or opening up your own psychic abilities to connect with them more. They  will often give you 'spirit nudges' to answer your questions. This will involve keep noticing a particular animal or bird, their name or finding feathers ect.

7) They want you to find happiness.

Always our loved ones deepest wish is for our happiness, for us to live our joy, dreams and potential. To enjoy our lives as much as we can. If your  romantic love partner, husband, wife, boyfriend girlfriend has crossed over they wish for you to find love again, to not be alone (although there are a few cheeky ones who will say their never going to be as handsome as me, lol) they know you won't forget about them and the bond of love remains but they do not want you to feel guilty at having to making different personal choices. Our crossed over loved ones, do in a way grow with us. By moving forward, they buzz off the fact your happy again and can connect to you easier when your in a higher vibe enjoying your life. They are proud of your achievements, proud of you overcoming any struggles - they root for you every step of the way.

Its such a privilege to see into people's lives and the love they shared. Knowing it really does live on. These are some of my experiences with spirit, within my readings, but all psychic's, intuitives and  mediums do work differently.

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With lots of love, light and blessings

Jannine x