Relationships... Resonation... and the reframe.

All our relationships and our interactions with others provide us with the greatest opportunities for growth, learning and our personal and collective evolution. It certainly is the subject I talk most of in my readings and something I've had life lessons in myself, with romantic love, friendships and family.

I seem to have learned a lot through my mediumship sessions, as to how passed over, now spirit based souls view their relationships while they were on earth. The amount of affection, care and protective tenderness they feel towards their loved ones and those they shared a link and bond with is awesome and a privilege to see and share. This is nearly always the case regardless of the dynamics and how things may have played out while they were on the earth plane, whether the relationship was harmonious or more challenging and difficult. From their newer perspective in the spirit world they see from a higher vibe, the whys and reasons, their actions and behaviours had the effect they did and often take responsibility for this, which maybe they couldn't always do or even see in life, this doesn't have to be really negative - it could be they were to clingy or over protective, or they feel they didn't demonstrate as much self love or respect in there own personal relationships, that may have had a knock on effect to their daughter or son doing the same. This happens because they are now resonating with different energies and influences to what they may have experienced here on earth, in their spirit world dimension. Although they definitely don't change there personalities, there out look very much changes.

Who you resonate with, feel drawn to or enjoy spending more time with is a big deal and will change, ebbing and flowing throughout your life. As you change your energy, vibration changes and it has a bigger impact than you may even realise on all the different types of relationships in your life.. 

It's like when your playing a game of Jenga, and your taking out pieces of the puzzle and if there not replaced with other similar bits the structure will topple over and fall. In a way this is the same with our relationships. When we or the other person changes and then take away pieces that made it stand strong and don't refill them with the new bits of the structure it will automatically be different to before. Now this can sometimes be repaired and made into a new better functioning creation through loving acceptance, listening and understanding, but often however much you may try the discordance of resonation becomes to much.

When this happens by reframing (seeing from a different perspective) our experiences so they don't keep the same cycle of blame or judgement is important to do in moving forward. This happens by taking responsibility for your part in how the relationship changed. How the changes you made, which are often from within (maybe through more awareness or more loving actions towards yourself) contributed to the change of the structure of the relationship. Then you make a conscious choice to see how much your learned and grew by this person being in your life, how they may have been the catalyst for the growth you needed and the blessings and lessons you wouldn't have experienced without their presence.

We are all the same in our wish for connection, for wholeness and we want to find a way to have resolution. Thats why we feel pain with separation and rejection, but this is only at one level as in absolute truth we all are connected. When one person chooses to start seeing things differently it creates shifts in others, like a knock on domino effect that awakens and changes past structures in not only relationships but the bigger universal picture. You can't stop the process of change, but you can work with them for everyone's growth and larger perspective benefit.